[She's not even all that mad about not talking to her about it, though she is mad. It just comes under vague, bossy irritation and concern, okay. Hardly something she's gonna begrudge him for the rest of eternity, anyway.]

I wouldn't define it as a weird problem with you. It sounds more like a weird problem that was done to you. Big difference. If you're not directly at fault, Sam, you shouldn't be thinking of yourself as that guy.

[There's a small huff, and she says with faint wry amusement:] That guy that the powers that be like to screw over, maybe.